Moods, Muppets, Museums and More!

My bad mood hasn’t really lifted yet this week. It’s been difficult for me to find the inspiration to blog anything because of how just generically down in the dumps I feel. I hate writing when I’m being a downer. It always seems to come across like some emotastic pre-teen who thinks that Fall Out Boy is the zeitgeist of creative expression.

I still haven’t decided what to do about the friend I mentioned yesterday. I’m supposed to go to that party on Sunday but I still haven’t figured out what’s best for me. So there’s that.

On a happier note, I’m traveling for the first time in 2014 next week! I’m off to DC for a convention. I love DC (big museum fan here) and have been a handful of times in my life, but always excited to go back. I’m traveling with a coworker who has never been, so that should be fun. I’d like to get some time to stop by the Smithsonian Museum of American History and see the new Puppetry in America exhibit. The Jim Henson Company donated a bunch of puppets sometime last year to the museum, and I’d definitely like to take a look around and see. Speaking of the Muppets, next year I’m also planning to take a trip down to Atlanta to see the new Jim Henson wing at the Center for Puppetry Arts. Check out how amazing it looks!

In case the last three sentences were too subtle for you to pick up on, I’m a really big Jim Henson and Muppet fan, and have been every since I was little. The Muppet Movie has been one of my favorite movies since before I can even remember, and I grew up watching “The Muppet Show,” “Muppet Babies,” “Fraggle Rock” and “The Jim Henson Hour” on Nickelodeon. When my little sister was born, I introduced her to them, and at 15 kind of got to experience seeing everything for the first time again through her eyes. I’ve even met some Muppets and Muppeteers!

Me and Gonzo in '07, pixelated to protect my secret client-facing identity

Me and Gonzo in ’07, pixelated to protect my secret client-facing identity

Steve Whitmire, who's played Kermit since Jim Henson's death, myself, and Dave Goelz, who plays Gonzo

Steve Whitmire, who’s played Kermit since Jim Henson’s death, myself, and Dave Goelz, who plays Gonzo

I have yet to meet Kermit the Frog, but I have sat in the same room next to him, which was an amazing experience into itself.

At a Muppet movie festival in 2008

At a Muppet movie festival in 2008

Now that they’re owned by Disney the Muppets themselves don’t seem to be quite as accessible as they once were, although the Muppeteers continue to make public appearances and chat, but hopefully one day I’ll fulfill my lifelong goal of singing a few bars of “The Rainbow Connection” with Kermit.

Back to DC. If we have time, I’d also love to take my coworker to the International Spy Museum and play the Operation Spy interactive exhibit. Finally, I’m definitely a bigger fan of New York’s own American Museum of Natural History than the Smithsonian version in DC, but they do have this face, which is always worth a viewing:

Natural History

Everything is quiet in the office today. Half the company is at an event we’re running for the Super Bowl, so it’s just me and a couple other people. I wish I had more things to add here! I’m planning on seeing American Hustle before the end of the week, so look forward to that review!


A Perfect Storm of Awfulness

Yesterday sucked. It was like Friday the 13th, but a Monday and the 27th. It came at me in all directions. Sunday I had a great, productive day followed by dinner and drinks with a couple friends, and went to bed at a decent hour. Then Monday at 4am, my hell day officially started.

A quick note: this is my first really personal blog post. I’ll come right out and say that this blog is under an alias. It’s pretty obvious if you look carefully; nothing about this name existed before last week. I’m in the client service industry and I wouldn’t feel able to write freely if it could be connected back to me; that’s why I ended my other blog years ago when I got this job. The internet never forgets, and I don’t want a client to Google my name and read something personal about me that may alter their perception of me. I also haven’t told any of my friends about this blog so that I can speak freely about them without hurting any feelings if the time comes. End note!

I woke up from a dream around 4am. In the dream I had been laying into a friend about something that has been bothering me for awhile. I’m not a confrontational person; if I do need to speak to an issue I tend to do it in a calm, almost businesslike manner, to keep tempers even and focused. The only person I really lose it with is my sister; even the time I kicked an old roommate out I stayed calm even though my blood was boiling as she called me a princess when I asked her to clean her hair out of the shower drain and told me that she’d leave on her own terms instead of mine (in the end she had no choice: it was my lease and I gave her more than a month’s notice). I’m the kind of person who swallows lesser offenses for the sake of peace, so a dream about confronting my friend really tells me that this matter is going pretty deep and I need to address it soon.

The issue is complicated, but comes down to this: at a party she was hosting a few weeks ago, I fell down and hit my head very hard. It turned out that I actually suffered a concussion, as I found out when I went to the ER the next day. There were a lot of signs that something was really wrong that everyone missed, I’m not blaming people for that. It was a party and everyone was drinking. What I’m really upset about is I have no memory of the night from after the time I fell, and when I was discussing what I missed with my friend, she told me a few really humiliating things, including that I hit on a longtime platonic friend right in front of his girlfriend, whom I’ve only met twice, and who was apparently really pissed at me. I was mortified, and said I needed to reach out to the girlfriend to make my apologies. She told me not to, that no one would remember it anyway because everyone was so drunk.

I didn’t listen. I emailed the girlfriend the next day, humiliated and profusely apologetic. She emailed back a short while later… with no clue what I was talking about. She said it never happened, and that she wasn’t really drinking and remembers the entire night from start to finish.

I was very hurt, and wanted to confront my friend about it. She made me feel embarrassed to be around these people again, and made me think I had tarnished a longstanding friendship. None of that was true. I needed to say something to her, but I didn’t want to do it over the phone or through text. I wanted to look at her face when I asked her why she lied to me. The problem is that my friend and I work opposite schedules; I’m 9-to-5 and she’s a consultant who works mostly evenings and weekends. I haven’t seen her since the day she told me about what I had allegedly done. I’ve been keeping my distance, because I don’t want to be friendly via text and then confront her the next time we hang out.

I’m supposed to go to her house on Sunday for a Super Bowl party. There will probably be 20 people or so there. That’s not the place to confront her. I’m actually thinking about not even going at this point. So, back to the original plot of this blog, that’s where I am at 4am yesterday morning. And then my brain started running. And running and running. I thought for hours about what I should do, how it could go down, etc. Before I knew it, it was 7am and my alarm was going off. I was exhausted, already pretty emotional, and in a good bit of pain (my back was hurting all weekend, for some reason). Also I had dropped my laundry off the day before, including every pair of jeans I own. At the time I’d thought, “Great! I’d wanted to start dressing better to work!” But after 3 hours of desperate tossing and turning, having to put on tights, a dress and heels felt like a Medieval torture device.

I was moving slowly due to all of the above and missed my usual train, which meant I had to cram into a train car that was even busier than my normal one. I got to work already in a bad mood. I had been stressed for the last week because a client wasn’t giving any feedback on a proposal and the deadline was coming down fast. He had set up a call for 10:30 that morning, which he missed, and then couldn’t be reached. I soured at my desk for an hour. I had turned around the initial proposal in two days, and then waited for four days for any feedback (which came on the Sunday of a long weekend), and then turned the revised draft around in one day, only to not get any feedback for a full week, and now the call was missed.

I spent a little bit of time on Clients From Hell, which made me smile and siphoned off a little of my bad mood.

Then I found out from one boss that the other boss had spoken with my client, and he wanted to change directions completely, but that boss was unavailable to speak with me at this point. The one speaking to me only had a few second-hand facts. This is when I put down my head and cried. Yes, that only happens at work when I am PMS-ing, but the thing about PMS is that it takes away your control of your emotions. Had I not been PMS-ing I still would have wanted to put my head down and cry, but I would have been able to will myself not to. As hard as I tried I had to give into my emotions. I had a team of two working their asses off trying to get me what I needed on our already tight deadline, and now I didn’t even know what direction to steer them in. I wasn’t included in the conversation and, as the hours ticked by, I wasn’t getting any tangible information to work with.

My boss called at 4pm and wanted to see something within the hour. I missed that deadline only by a few minutes, and then waited around for a reply, which never came. Sad songs kept coming on my iPod on the ride home, which really helped. I got home around 7pm, hungry, but not willing to really cook anything or wait for anything to defrost… so I made some nachos and a glass of wine and then later some ice cream with probably a larger ratio of sprinkles : ice cream than there should normally be. I couldn’t bring myself to write anything and the new episode of How I Met Your Mother, which left some of my friends in tears, left me kind of cold.

And that, ladies and gents, was my terrible day. I don’t like putting negativity out into the world like this very often, but bad days happen to everyone, and I think writing down my experience helped me realize it really wasn’t as bad as it felt going through it. Today I’m better. The sun is actually out, even though it’s a colder day, so that helps a bit too. Ooh! And today I wore a really cute dress:

Colorblock dressModCloth, sadly no longer available